Own your life. Own where it’s been. Own where it’s headed.

Mike Crowden November 12, 2019

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Here is today’s Game and what’s going on.

Here is what I discovered today in our Dadly Daily Declaration reading from Chapter 13 of Stop Doing That Shit by Gary John Bishop. The title of this chapter is “You Can Finally Stop Doing That Shit — No, Really!.”

Today’s Dadly Daily Declaration covers the final chapter of Stop Doing That Shit. There are lots of nuggets again today as we end this book:

The future is truly unlimited. There’s nothing formed out there, so you can do what you want with it. It’s expansive and can include anything. When you leave the past where it sleeps, when you’re no longer framing what’s in front of you in terms of what’s behind you, you really have limitless potential.
As long as you stay aware.
This is not about stopping self-sabotaging behavior on their own but instead designing a future that compels you to fill your life with new actions, new outcomes — in short, a new life. And you can have it now. Right now.
It doesn’t matter what you do; it only matter that you do.  You can’t find the pathway there by standing still. Life is nothing but a grand experiment, an opening in amount in history too hot, scream, love, live, and die, but you won’t do that by sitting on your ass worrying about the right thing to do with your life.
Every day, several times a day, sometimes hundreds of times a day and for countless days to come, you have to ask yourself, “What is my future telling me to do right now?”
Whatever the answer is, big or small, ACT ON IT!
Whatever you own no longer owns you. That’s why we have done all this work, dug in as deep as we have: for you to define and make clear whatever has had you be on autopilot. To wake you up. To make you aware.
Now you have to take responsibility for all that you are now aware of. You don’t get to use the same tired excuses, the same old moments of self-indulged guild or shame or weakness. Sure, there will be moments, real in-your-face moments when he the compulsion to do the predictable will be so enticing, so magnetic and powerful, the urge will seem like it’s just too much.
For example, maybe you are finally committed to ending the cycle of sabotaging your marriage and instead you are working to reveal a connection of love and adventure in your relationship. But what do you do when your partner says that thing, you the thing, the one that you completely lose your shit when they said it? In that moment you have to stop and choose. Remember that future you created, the one that is a symbol of the life and relationship you have always wanted, and start chipping. You chip, chip away in that moment. You remove the obstacle. You don’t fight it, you don’t hat it or get dramatic about it, saying something that will hurt your partner and your connection. You move it to the side and let it pass through, unperturbed, and you take the action in that moment that is in alignment with that future of love and adventure. Authentically pivot.
And you’ll do this every time because that’s what someone does when their very existence is about having love in their life. They bring it to the table.
Commitment is what it takes to make real and lasting change. Real, no-kidding, all-in, nothing-left-out commitment to what you really want. Especially in those moments when your are defeated or depressed or confused or any one of the number of ways in which you find an excuse to bail on yourself.

There will be those days when you blow it. In the aftermath of that, you look to the future for guidance on how to clean it up.
It doesn’t matter if you blow it. What matters is that you keep working on the stone, creating and chipping away at your own masterpiece. That you honor the future you created.
REVEAL THE FUTURE, every day, one piece at a time.
Stop indulging yourself with fantasies and dramas and unresolved issue. Wake the hell up!
There’s no magical secret to your life, no single potion, no mystical source to your stuff, no one thing that can turn you into your greatest self or gushing with new age purpose.
You’re more like a body of work than a body, and there’s always work to do, new levels of effectiveness and aliveness to unpack and explore. And every day of your life, either you’re getting yourself on the hook for that task or you’re dead in the water. Period.
Do you know what life really is? It’s an opportunity for you to play with the skin bag you were given. To try it out, to take it for a ride, to work that thing to its very limit, to live this life before you fucking die. The certainty you’ve been craving? That’s it right there. You’ll die.
Between ow and then, you have this glorious opportunity to go beyond everything you’ve ever known yourself as. To be the most effective, loving, forgiving, adventurous, passionate, committed, understanding, successful, and creative human being you can muster until you’re out of time. To look the people in your life straight in the eye and be that kind of human being you’ve always wanted to be. Authentic.
If you’re not inspired by your life, you haven’t created one worthy enough to light you up, and that is always on you.
When it comes down to it, do you know why you self-sabotage? You’re bored. You’re bored out of your freaking mind by your own predictable, safe, ordinary little bathtub of bullshit. You know it. Your life has become a mundane and repetitive attempt at wrestling yourself free from a past that you decided you’d never be able to get over anyway.

Here’s your action plan for today:

You need to define the future for these things: your finances, your love life, your family, your body, your career or business or purpose for this life. Where are you headed? What will your life really look like in two or three or five years? What are you creating? Are you going to sit there and throw that up to fate, or will you define it for yourself and challenge yourself to live that reality, moment by moment by moment?

What have you been killing off or waiting for or screwing around with? Start getting up to the sort of stuff that inspires you!

Right now, start creating this future life in your mind’s eye, including all the different things you’d like to see in it and who you could be in it. Imagine the kind of work you’ll do a year from now. What actions are you taking today to reveal that future? What kind of relationship do you want to have? Can you see it? All right, now look at this present moment of time. What actions are you taking right now to reveal that future?

It goes on. Picture where you’ll live, in what kind of house and in what location — no, really, get specific. Picture who will share it with you, whether it’s a lover, your family, or your dogs, or maybe you’ll be on your own! Now, take look at your current life next to all of that. Your current life is the block of stone, the future is your David. What do you need to work on first? What will you be challenged by? Maybe you need to end a sterile relationship or take on some other big piece of your life. It won’t be easy, but remember, you are going to live either a life of regurgitating the past or a life of revealing a whole new future…It’s time to choose.

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Those gems lead us to today’s Dadly Daily Declaration:

Fuck the past, reveal a bold future, step out there and get into action. Deal with yourself.

Own your life, own where it’s been, own where it’s headed and what you need to do to wake yourself up to what’s possible each and every day of it.

The future has arrived. Now, what the hell are you going to do about it?

Here’s your action plan for today:

Mike Crowden

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