Today’s Dadly Daily Declaration comes from Chapter 13 (titled More, Better Sex) of Aubrey Marcus‘ book, Own The Day, Own Your Life. This chapter focuses on the bump n’ grind, as well as testosterone, communication, and porn. As Marcus states: People don’t have nearly enough sex – no wonder as a society we are so frustrated. But we not only need to have more sex, we need to have better sex.
Marcus believes sex is a choice. He posits sex isn’t happening because we are not making it a priority. Amongst he reasons why we don’t make it a priority might be because the sex we’re having is just not that good. So, the better the sex we have, we’ll make it a priority. That’s important because sex is healthy and important for our well-being. Sex relieves stress, stimulates endorphins and hormones, and is crucial for sexual health. Further, Marcus writes, correlations exist between improved ascent of mental health ad immune function. Frequent sex may also help with depression, wound healing, aging, prostate health, and pain tolerance.
As this chapter plugs along, Marcus gives pointers and advice on how to increase testosterone, how to have better sex, and a prescription for your sex life. All of this leads us to our Dadly Daily Declaration:
The biggest obstacle to improving your sex life is the ego. Think about it. When we’re single, the reason we don’t talk to more potential mates is that we are afraid of rejection. Or sometimes we choose the wrong mate because of our ego. We choose people we are not compatible with because their status or attractiveness will make us feel better about who we are, and made make others think better of us too.
The truth is this: the ego likes to hold us to an unrealistic standard of perfection…Tell your ego to back off. Tell it that sex is not who you are, it’s just what you do. So relax, take the pressure off, and get back to having fun. Open up all your sensations and perceptions. Don’t rush anything. Communicate, broaden your scope of sexuality, and make a promise to yourself that no matter what happens, you won’t think less of yourself, or your partner.
